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"First impressions are the key to unlocking doors of opportunities"- Unknown. As a woman who wants to make it in this world, first impressions count! Your capacity to walk into a room and command it will influence your ability to stand out or fade into the background. Whether it’s a networking event, a job interview or that nerve-wrecking first date! Ask yourself...How do I make myself memorable? Keep in mind the old-age adage....You never get a second chance to make a good first impression! How can I leave a Lasting Impression? Hey Evolvers, Have you ever asked yourself, how long does it take to grab someone's attention? Well, believe it or not, research says it only takes about 7 seconds... Yep, first impressions stick, so nailing that initial interaction is key. But here's the thing: how do you make those crucial moments count? It's all about your vibe – your appearance, body language, attitude, and style. And it's not just about grabbing attention; it's about holding onto it! From getting ready for that big meet-up to stepping into a room and saying hi, to keeping the convo flowing – how do you make yourself unforgettable? Today, we'll chat about Mastering the Art of a Good First Impression! Yasssss!!!, I'll introduce you to the 5 Ps of Looking Good: Personal Style, Precision, Posture, Personality, and Presence – 5 keys to perfecting a killer first impression, all without breaking the bank! Personal Style First up in line (this one is my absolute favorite) is personal style! What is your personal style? Do you know? Despite what everyone says….People will see you before they get to know you, and based on what you project they unconsciously decide how to treat you!  It's all a part of the law of attraction! Besides …dressing well is a form of good manners! By harnessing your personal style you can say who you are, without having to say who you are! In this day and age authenticity counts! Be original, let your personality shine through in the clothes that you wear! Are you easy going? Check out this look! Want to show them who is boss? Get yourself a power suit! Want communicate elegance and sophistication? Check out this look! Hey Evolver! Create a capsule closet, play with various colors and designs, and take it a step further by infusing your personal style into your own brand. This ensures you always make a statement and stand out from the crowd! Precision Precision is all about paying attention to detail! Something as simple as ensuring that you are well groomed will make a huge difference. Ensuring that your clothing is neatly ironed and your seam is in place is important! Adding a dash of red lipstick or accessories can transform and elevate any look! Even selecting the right kind of undergarments can significantly impact your overall appearance and boost your confidence! Hey Evolver! Don't forget: the real beauty is in the details! Small adjustments can have a huge impact. I want you to really care about your appearance because when you look good, you feel good! Posture Looking to improve your posture? Amy Cuddy, a renowned authority in nonverbal communication, offers a straightforward yet powerful life hack in her TED talk. She proposes that a mere two-minute adjustment in posture can notably boost confidence. Give it a try: stand in front of a mirror and practice "power posing," mimicking the iconic Wonder Woman stance for just two minutes. This exercise can help condition your brain to exude assertiveness, confidence, and relaxation. When you walk into a room, own it! Stand tall, chin up, shoulders squared. Your posture speaks volumes, echoing confidence and self-assurance. It gives a silent introduction that speaks louder than words. Hey Evolver! Feeling nervous before your next encounter? Need a quick confidence boost? Don't forget to practice your powerful Wonder Woman stance! Personality And now for the moment we all were waiting for! You enter the room and its time for to introduce yourself. From your very first word, let your personality shine through! Remember energy is transferable! "Why fit in when you were born to stand out?"- Dr. Seuss. Hey Evolver! Don't try to be something you are not! Authenticity breeds connection, share your passions, demonstrate empathy, be enthusiastic and embrace your uniqueness. Being personable and showing off your  personality will make you  memorable long after the first encounter. Presence It is great to show off your personality but be more importantly, Be Present! It's all about being fully engaged in the moment. Dale Carnegie from his ever popular book: How to Win Friends and Influence People show us 6 ways to get people to like you and make a good impression: Hey Evolver! Always strive to ensure that your presence make others feel valued and appreciated. As Maya Angelou famously said: "People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel!" Preparation is Key! Seven seconds –seven seconds, that's all it takes to make your mark. You've got one shot at this, so make every moment count. I've shared with you the 5 Ps of looking good – Posture, Presence, Personal Style, Precision, and Personality – each essential in crafting a remarkable first impression. But let's not forget one more crucial P – Preparation! Preparation is everythingggggggggggg! Be on time, dress appropriately for the occasion, remember people's names, and practice your Wonder Woman pose. Attention to detail matters – not just in your attire but also in your posture, speech, and actions, ensuring they convey your intended message effectively. As you can see, the impression you leave is a fusion of your personality, body language, and communication skills, all of which don't cost a penny! While they say you never get a second chance at a first impression, your first impression may not be the last time to make a good impression, so keep at it! I've personally used the 5 P s to help me EVOLVE my life, and I truly believe that every woman deserves to know and master these tips. Because ultimately....it's not just about making an entrance – it's about leaving a lasting impression!!!

"The whole point of being alive is to EVOLVE into the complete person you were intended to be."-Oprah Winfrey. There comes a point in every woman's life when she gets a burning desire to evolve. You just know deep down inside that you were meant to do more to be more. It was 7 pm at night; I found myself on a park bench, contemplating the bane of my existence and how I had royally f***ed up my life! Broken, depressed, a newly minted single mom with 5 dollars in my pocket—I thought, "Wow, so this is what rock bottom looks like!" Right then and there, I declared, "Enough is enough!" And I decided it was time for me to EVOLVE! Since that night in the park, I've been on a conscious journey to step outside my comfort zone, push my limits, transform my life, and, in the process...… become the best version of myself! If you are reading this, I have one question for you…. Are you ready to EVOLVE? Keep scrolling....... Cuz, today I'm going to share with you the 5 tips that I used to EVOLVE my life! Tip #1: Change Your Mindset I became a victim of my life and everything that happened to me and with it was my inability to think, see or believe that things would get better or that I deserved better.  The past was in the past, and I didn't want to live there anymore! It was time for me to focus on rebuilding my life and charting a new future. I decided that this time.... I am going to bet on myself! I started looking at my life through the lens of gratitude, positivity, possibility, and abundance. The moment I believed wholeheartedly that I could do better, I could be better and I had everything that I needed to succeed, is the moment that my life changed. Hey Evolver! No one is coming to save you or fix your life, its all up to YOU! The only one that limits YOU is YOU! Tip #2: Create A Vision Board I am going to say this out loud for those at the back of the room! I wanna live a biggggg life! I knew the life that I didn't want; it was time for me to design the life that I truly wanted.  So, I created a vision board, but I didn't stop there! I didn't just romanticize my life; I used it as a daily reminder of what I was trying to build. Psychology Today says that daily visualization work can increase motivation, confidence, and even motor performance. Stars like Oprah Winfrey and Reese Witherspoon boasted about vision boards being crucial to their success. I used my vision board reverse engineer my goals and the steps I needed to make my dreams a reality! Hey, Evolver! You only have one life...so liveeee it! Create a big vision for your life and girl, go get it! Tip#3: Find Your Ikigai. One of my biggest challenges was deriving value and happiness from my job. I felt lost, stuck, unchallenged, and combined with everything I was going through, it led to bitterness. I had no drive; I was just going with the motion. I often asked myself, "Why am I here? What am I meant to do? What is my purpose?" On my quest to answer these questions, I stumbled upon the Japanese concept called Ikigai. It challenged me to ask myself these four questions: "What do you love♥," "What are you good at"" What does the world need," "What can you be paid for?". Using this concept, I found my north star. This was an absolute game-changer for me. I was able to build a life and career that brought me joy while getting paid for it! Hey, Evolver! Get aligned with your purpose! Your skills, gifts and talents should be making you money! Tip #4 - Get Your Money Right! Being broke and broken is never a good thing! Money problems will pull you down. Trust me, I speak from experience! It's hard to focus on evolving when you are stuck thinking about where your next meal is coming from. It's time to get out of survival mode! According to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, you've got to take care of your lower-level needs before thinking about self-actualizing. I was tired of my finances getting in the way. I needed to get a better hold of my money. I used Clever Girl Finance free financial resources, to help me create a budget and formulate a plan to handle my money situation better. Then, I put in the work to get out of debt and channeled my finances into achieving my goals! Hey Evolver! Get in the driver's seat of your finances! Create a budget! Tip #5 - Get Dressed! Sometimes you lose yourself, you get caught up in the mundane nature of life and you forget who you are. Suddenly, how you look isn't important. Coco Chanel once said "Dress shabbily and they remember the dress; dress impeccably and they remember the woman." It was time to reinvent myself! I took time to pour into myself! I changed my hair, my wardrobe, armed with my secret weapon Ms. Ruby Woo💄💄!! I was ready to take on the world! One of the best Jedi mindset hacks that I can teach anyone is when you look good, you feeeeeeel good. I made a conscious decision to be authentically me! Glamorous, colorful, effervescent and ever present! The best version of me! Hey, Evolver! Get up and get dressed! The world is waiting for you! There you have it! Those are the five tips that I used to EVOLVE MY LIFE! Before I go, I have one more thing to share with you... Evolved Women, Evolve Women! Yup! Who said you have to do it all by yourself?😮😮 Having healthy friendships, finding mentors, even getting a therapist, dramatically helped me! Hey Evolver! The right support system, having a tribe that genuinely want to see you win...........matters!

Hey Evolvers! Today, we're delving into a topic that might hit close to home for many of us....Imposter Syndrome. You know, that sneaky feeling of being a fraud, despite evidence of your success? Yeah, that one. I'll unpack what it is, how it intersects with perfectionism and anxiety, and, most importantly, I'll share five effective strategies to kick it to the curb. Let's dive in! What is a Imposter Syndrome? Picture this: you've aced that presentation, received glowing praise from your peers, yet deep down, you feel like you've somehow tricked everyone into believing you're competent. That, my friends, is Imposter Syndrome in action. It's that persistent fear of being exposed as a fraud, despite evidence of your accomplishments. Instead, you downplay your achievements attributing it to luck or external factors. Sound familiar? Newsflash!!!! You're not alone! The Journal of General Internal Medicine  states that over 82% of individuals face feelings of imposter syndrome. Impostor Syndrome is real and prevalent among high achievers, who frequently grapple with feelings of inadequacy fueled by self-doubt or insecurity about their abilities. This phenomenon often arises under the pressure to succeed. It can stem from attempts to meet parental expectations or when you undertake new roles, tasks, or added responsibilities, leading to undue anxiety and guilt. Those affected by Impostor Syndrome often limit themselves, obsess over minor mistakes, or push themselves harder than necessary to validate their achievements. Imposter Syndrome and Perfectionism Where does perfectionism fit in? Let's see..... You set impossibly high standards for yourself, striving for flawlessness in every task. But here's the thing: when you inevitably fall short (because, let's face it, perfection is unattainable), Impostor Syndrome whispers those dreaded doubts in your ear: "You're not good enough!" While some embrace perfectionism as a badge of honor, striving for top-quality work, it's vital to acknowledge the toll it can take. For those grappling with Impostor Syndrome, constantly questioning their abilities can breed a belief that their utmost efforts will never suffice. When this notion intertwines with their self-worth, the pursuit of perfectionism can pose significant challenges. Anything less than perfection may be labeled a failure, fostering feelings of inadequacy and dissatisfaction. Such tendencies can detrimentally impact ones mental well-being and productivity. Imposter Syndrome and Anxiety? Now, let's delve into the anxious side of Imposter Syndrome. Do you ever feel that gnawing worry that at any moment, someone will uncover your supposed incompetence? Experience the racing heart, sweaty palms, and sleepless nights spent agonizing over whether you're truly deserving of your successes? Imposter syndrome fuels anxiety by fostering self-doubt, fear of failure, and social comparison, leading to rumination and worry. The pressure to perform and negative self-talk exacerbate anxiety symptoms, while avoidance behaviors hinder effective coping strategies. Overall, imposter syndrome perpetuates a cycle of uncertainty and self-criticism that undermines confidence and significantly contributes to anxiety. 5 Ways to Overcome Imposter Syndrome Alright, it is time to kick Imposter Syndrome to the curb! Here are five tried-and-true strategies to reclaim your confidence: 1-Recognise and Acknowledge The first step to dealing with any problem is self-awareness; acknowledge that Impostor Syndrome is real. By recognizing its existence, you take away some of its power over you. Becoming more aware of your overreactions and triggers enables you to respond differently. When imposter syndrome creeps into your thoughts, tackle it head-on! Ask yourself, "Is it true?" More often than not, the answer is no! By challenging your misconstrued notions and focusing on what you can control, ultimately finding joy in your accomplishments, you'll realize that it's all in your head; it's a mind game about how you perceive yourself and the world around you. Hey Evolver! Remember, you have control over your own self-perception and emotional responses. Always keep in mind the powerful words of Eleanor Roosevelt: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." 2. Embrace Imperfection Repeat after me: perfection is overrated. Making mistakes is part of the process! It's okay not to have everything figured out! Instead of aiming for perfection, strive to do your best. Striving for excellence is distinct from pursuing perfection because doing your best means giving your utmost effort and dedication to a task or goal within the boundaries of your capabilities and circumstances. It means focusing on the process and learning experience rather than solely on the outcome, and accepting imperfections as part of the journey. Hey, Evolver! Embrace your flaws and mistakes as opportunities for growth, not signs of incompetence. By committing to learning and evolving, you'll improve over time, just like fine wine. 3. Practice Self Compassion Stop beating yourself up! Stop being so hard on yourself and dwelling on negative thoughts. Be kind to yourself, always. Treat yourself with the utmost compassion and understanding you would extend to a dear friend facing similar struggles. You deserve nothing less. Remember, you are only human! Embrace your imperfections and mistakes as the unique qualities that make you extraordinary. Understand your strengths and weaknesses, and grant yourself grace and the space to grow, recognizing that you are an ever-evolving masterpiece in the making. Hey, Evolver! What you tell yourself matters! Be kind and patient with yourself, embracing your worth and appreciating your progress every step of the way. 4-Celebrate Your Wins Keep a record of your achievements, big and small. Celebrate each victory, and revisit them whenever self-doubt comes knocking. Ta-daaaa! This is where our ammunition board comes in! Yes, your ammunition board. Keep your ammunition board up to date!  Document your life, your wins, and give value to your accomplishments because they matter! Every now and then, you need to stop and smell the roses and remind yourself of how powerful you are! It's all you; it has always been you! You have what it takes! You are not a failure! Hey, Evolver! The next time you feel imposter syndrome creeping in, check your receipts! Pull out your ammunition board and it will show you, you are a badass! 5. Build Your Confidence! Have you ever heard the term 'fake it till you make it'? Projecting confidence, even if it feels uncomfortable, can lead to genuine self-assurance. Visualization techniques can also be beneficial, helping you envision success in challenging situations and reducing self-doubt. Seeking external validation is essential too; actively seek feedback from trusted colleagues, mentors, or friends who can offer an objective perspective on your skills and achievements to help boost your confidence. As René Descartes famously stated, 'I think, therefore I am' – our thoughts shape our reality. Hey, Evolver!  By believing in yourself, gaining objective feedback, and embracing a confident mindset, you can rewrite the imposter syndrome narrative and unlock your true potential You are not Alone! Don't be afraid to talk about it! You'd be surprised how many people can relate to Imposter Syndrome. Lean on your community! Reach out to friends, family, or even a therapist, and open up about your struggles. Imposter Syndrome is more prevalent than you think. Ask for help! You'll likely find solidarity and support in unexpected places. Remember our mantra...Evolved Women, help to Evolve Women! You are Amazingggggggg! You are a total badass! You see that overwhelming feeling telling you that you don't deserve your success? Forget it! You absolutely do! Doubting your intelligence, creativity, or talent? Girl....You've got this! While you're over there doubting yourself and undervaluing your performance, there are other women watching on, clapping, inspired and in awe of your achievements! Remember, You are A-M-A-Z-I-N-G!! You got talent! You're capable! You're deserving! You're absolutely not alone on this journey and most importantly you belong! Here's to embracing our worth and silencing that inner imposter once and for all. Until next time, keep evolving! 🌟

I often get bombarded with the question... "Do vision boards really work?" My answer is usually a resounding – Yes andddd……. No! Here’s the thing, when I first started using vision boards, it did not work...nope....not really! I would attend these female empowerment luncheons, and they would say, "Create a vision board." So I did. I did it because I was told to, and well, everybody was doing it.... but nothing happened, so I got frustrated and I stopped! Then, my moment of enlightenment came. I wanted so badly to evolve my life, to rewrite my story, and my first step was creating a vision board. This time, it was transformative. I had cracked the code! Slowly but surely, I started to see changes in my life. Opportunities that seemed out of reach before suddenly became attainable. Doors that were once closed began to open. Since then, I've faithfully used vision boards, and they've worked wonders for me. I wholeheartedly believe they can do the same for you too! What is a Vision Board? Now, if you're not quite sure what a vision board is, let me break it down for you. It's like a real-life Pinterest board but for your dreams and aspirations. How to Create a Vision Board? I am glad you asked! Close your eyes and get centered. Imagine your life one year from now, five years...... What does future you look like? What is she doing? What is she wearing ? What car is she driving? Who is she with?  Is she married to Michael B Jordan or Brad Pitt ? Visualize the the life and the woman you want to become! Once you've got that vivid image in your mind, it's time to bring it to life! Get some poster paper, or cork board, gather images, words, goals—anything that resonates with your vision—and create a visual masterpiece. Are you tech savvy? Want a digital version? Grab your laptop or phone and get whip up your vision board on Canva. Want a little bit more direction? Jack Canfield tells us his recipe below on how to create a vision board: How to turn Your Vision Board into Reality? Hold up! Now if you think that simply slapping some pictures on a board will magically transform your life. Dream on! Your vision board's just a wish list memo to the universe of your intentions! Sure, ask for it—clarity is key. But guess what? That's NOT ENOUGH! Why? John P. Maxwell once said "Your dreams don't work unless you do! So, how do you make your vison board work? I'm glad you asked! Let me hit you with six game-changing tips to help breathe life into that vision board of yours: Tip #1: Believe in Your Vision Napoleon Hill once said, “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.“ You've got to believe, wholeheartedly, that your dreams are within reach. Sure, your goals might seem lofty to others, but have unwavering faith that it will come to fruition. "You get out of life what you have the courage to ask for."-Oprah Winfrey. I believe that the universe rewards intention! Ever heard of the Secret law of attraction? Everything that comes into your life and everything that you experience, it does so through the magnetic power of your thoughts. Simply put, your THOUGHTS.....BECOMES …THINGS! On this path to manifesting your vision, the law of attraction can help you to effortlessly attract the things, people and opportunities that you desire. Stay focused and be positive! By banishing negative thoughts and limiting beliefs, you unleash your potential for greatness! Remember, positive energy fuels action and breeds success, while negativity only holds you back. Hey Evolver! Always remember, Positive thoughts attract, Negative thoughts counteract! Tip #2: Create an Actionable Plan Your vision board might seem overwhelming, hell it may even feel intimidating! Fear not! You need to chunk it up into bite sized pieces! Let me show you how to break it down: a)      Simplify your vision board. Create SMART goals. b)     Next, Isolate and Prioritize. Ask yourself.... Where do I need to start? c)      From your selected goal… Create a plan by turning you goals into actionable steps. Ask yourself ….What do you need to do everyday to achieve your goals? Start small! d)     Do the work! Avoid overwhelming yourself by focusing on too many goals at once. Limit yourself to no more than three goals at a time to ensure you can dedicate adequate attention and effort to each one. e) Rinse and Repeat! Hey, Evolver! Having a dream without a plan is like trying to build a house without blueprints. You may have an idea of what you want to achieve, but without a plan, you won't know the steps to take or the materials you'll need to make it a reality. Tip#3: Use Your Vision Board Daily Your vision board isn't just a pretty collage – it's a tool to keep you focused and motivated. Put it somewhere visible like your phone lock screen, computer desktop, or next to your mirror. Let it serve as a constant reminder of what you're working towards. Every time you look at it visualize, see yourself as if you are already there! Let yourself be overcome with emotions: feel the excitement, the joy, and the sense of accomplishment knowing that you've already made it happen! Speak to yourself! Reinforce your belief with powerful affirmations – you know, those "I am" statements. "I am powerful beyond measure," "I am a successful entrepreneur" And when doubt creeps in, go back to tip #1.....Believeeeee! Believe in yourself, in your dreams, and in the journey you're on! Hey, Evolver! Keep saying yes to your dreams every single day! Your vision board is your reminder of why you started what you're aiming for and why you should keep going! Tip #4 - Get Your Ammunition Ready! Now, I wish I could promise you it'll be easy, but truth is, life happens! Setbacks happen! Things will pop up and throw you off course! You've got to be ready to fight for your dreams! When you are on the battlefield, you must constantly strategize, adapt and in the midst of it all...... STILL PUSH FORWARD!!! Lets be real! There are times when your vision board alone just won't cut it! There are times when you will need more firepower! That my friend is where your secret weapon, an ammunition board, comes in. Think of it this way: your vision board is your plan, while your ammunition board is your track record of your wins and progress. It's your reminder of where you've come from, all the obstacles you've conquered, and the resilience you've shown. Sometimes, you just got to check in, read those receipts, and remind yourself that you have what it takes to overcome whatever life throws your way. Hey Evolver! Achieving your goals demands flexibility, endurance, mental toughness, and unwavering determination. So, keep that ammunition board handy – it's your arsenal of motivation to keep pushing forward. Tip #5 - Practice Gratitude Everyday When you've asked the universe for something, be prepared to receive it! Practice gratitude and do your gratitude checks regularly. Write down three things everyday that you are grateful for! In those moments when you forget how blessed you are, go back to your ammunition board! Sometimes all you need is a reminder of how far you have come! Sometimes, just reflecting on what you've been through and what you have accomplished can overwhelm you with gratitude! Hey, Evolver! Be grateful for what you have accomplished, be grateful for what you have now and be grateful for what is to come! Tip #6- Have Patience! Patience truly is key; everything unfolds in its own time, not necessarily when we want it, but when it's right. I know its hard, we want things to happen now! The question is …Is now the right time? We have to understand that waiting is a part of the plan. Waiting isn't stalling and it isn't being stuck! Waiting isn't punishment, WAITING IS PREPARATION! Sometimes, you're simply not ready to receive what you desire. So you got to wait! Perhaps you're in the wrong place, with the wrong person, or lacking the necessary skills or habits. In the moments of waiting, you're undergoing the often messy process of evolving. Hey, Evolver! Trust the process! Find beauty in the wait and have faith! Your dreams it will unfold at the right time!🙏🙏 You have the Power to Shape Your Reality! Your dreams start with a vision board, but ultimately, your ability to bring your vision to life will come down to what you do EVERYDAY! The steps that you take, the moves that you make, the challenges that you overcome, that is where the magic happens! So, do vision boards really work? Yes, but only if you approach them with the right mindset and dedication. I poured my heart and soul into my vision board. I carefully selected images that truly resonated with my goals and aspirations. And most importantly, I committed myself to taking consistent action towards those goals, no matter how small. It's not just about creating a pretty collage; it's about believing in yourself and your ability to turn your dreams into reality. So Be Brave, Be Bold, Be Intentional! Your dreams are waiting for you! Go on Girl! Gooooooooo Get It!🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️